Allow Yourself to Build Your New Life After Divorce- Avoid These Seven Divorce Barriers

Permanence - Everything changes and believing that the way things are now is the way they will always be will only bring continuous disappointment. Divorce is a time when you will have to rewrite your life's plans but it's the start of a new chapter and not the end of the entire story.

Sadness - A life of shared dreams that you have known has come to an end and it might result in significant changes even when the divorce is uncontested. It's natural to feel sad and trying to ignore it will only make your recovery worse. The only way to relieve your sadness is to feel it, embrace it and let it flow through you and then let the sadness go, as it has served its purpose.

Super- Parent - Don't get overwhelmed by overcompensating to fill the void from divorce by assuming the entire burden of childcare and decision making by being a "Super Parent". Trying to be a "Super Parent" sometimes leads to being too permissive with your children to fill this void by any means necessary and lose themselves in the process as they place their children's needs first. Your children need you but they also need you to be healthy, happy and productive. Allow yourself to be a good parent rather than a perfect parent; seek out support and guidance from others and make sure to take care of yourself too.

Vengeance - The need for revenge is a harmful trap. Filling your day and mind with negative thoughts about your ex-spouse you end up neglecting yourself. And basing your well-being on someone else's demise does not create a good atmosphere. Moving on even if justice is never served is better than waiting for the desired punishment to be played out while your life is sabotaged by your rage.

Why - Trying to convince yourself that once you understand then everything will be ok can sometimes lead to an escape but no amount of information will relieve the pain. Eventually, you have to accept that you will not know everything and that it's best to move on.

Worthiness - Divorce can be a huge blow to our self-esteem; we feel rejected, see ourselves as broken, and either seek out rescuers or conclude we're flawed and unworthy of love. You were worthy to find marriage the first time and you will find it again just chose more wisely the next time.